Everyday UseKids and Computers

Whereas many of us are still playing catch-up with computers-how to use them, how to tend to them, how to integrate them into our lives-for our kids, technology is practically second nature. Preschoolers gravitate toward the keyboard and seem to intuit "point-and-click," and it's become cliche to ask the teen next door for gadget and Internet tips. Part of the week at many schools takes place in computer lab, so even if you've just brought your first computer home, you may be surprised to find out your kids already know how to use it.

Kids' comfort with tech comes in handy when it's homework research time, but can also cause newbie parents plenty of anxiety. How does a parent who's just getting up to speed with computers and the Internet guide their kids with respect to technology? Here's a place to start:

Don't be afraid, but do be informed.

While the scary stuff-Internet predators, pornography, cyberbullies, "screen time" addiction-gets all the press, the fact is that the Internet (and technology in general) has opened up wonderful opportunities for children. Being able to create one's own newsletter, or chat online with a long-distance cousin, or look up facts on a favorite hobby... the possibilities are endless for kids who have a healthy understanding of technology. Keep that in mind as you read up and get involved. A good place to start: CNET's Living with Technology: Keeping your kids safe online.

Take advantage of your kids' smarts and learn alongside them.
Be open to learning about what your computer can do-you've got a live-in guide. Ask your kids to show you what they like to do on the computer, then sit down with them and prepare to be amazed. My eight year-old son could spend hours typing facts on "stickies" and then printing them out, while my four year-old daughter just wants to see letters appear on the screen after she pushes buttons on the keyboard.

Are there simple technology projects you can do together? Try setting up instant messaging and chatting to each other from different computers. (What's instant messaging? See PC.com: How to set up instant messaging). Email each other. School homework often comes with research requests-do some Google searching together and talk about what comes up. Tip: On the Google home page, click the "Advanced Search" link to access SafeSearch, which filters adult content from search results. Find out more at Google's Tips for Online Safety page.

They may know the tools, but you understand the world.

Just as you don't need to be a mechanic to teach your kids to drive, you don't need to be a technology expert to be in charge of computer use in your family. If you can, have your values and limits in mind before you talk to your kids about the computer rules. Set time limits. Place the computer in a central location in your house so it can be a family appliance rather than a mysterious box in the corner. And, most importantly, try not to tune out because you find your computer or the Internet intimidating or overwhelming. Yes, there's a lot to learn, but you don't need to learn it all at once. The more you spend time tapping on the keyboard, the more familiar it will become, and the more you can share the experience with your kids.